Every once in a while, life and its events get the better of us. Sometimes we let ourselves get bogged down in the stress of work and tasks that we forget to have fun. Sometimes things in our relationships don’t go as we’d hoped. Sometimes these things not only make us a little cranky…but we may also become withdrawn…or forget our dreams, how to relax & have fun…or even feel our self-worth slipping away.
When all this happens, we lose our spark. That little twinkle in our eye that tells the world we’re ready to take it on, and that it better watch out, because you’ve got some mischief up your sleeve!
It can be hard to get it back, that lovely little glint…but we can get it back. It could be as simple as hearing the right song, or string of songs, on the radio (or whatever musical device you happen to be listening to). It could be taking a few days to reconnect with old friends. It could just be getting away for a couple hours of peace and quiet so you can actually have an uninterrupted thought. A movie line, a song lyric, an incredibly astute comment by…anyone.
It can happen in many ways, sometimes we seek it out, other times it just smacks us upside the head and lets us know it’s back. lol Whatever the case, if that sparkle shows up, you’d better hang on to that sucker! That spark is what helps us to feel ALIVE! It’s what helps us find the humor in even the darkest of situations. It’s what attracts Joy into our lives.
My sparkle ran away for a few days…partly because I had to say farewell to someone I’d prefer was physically in my proximity on a day to day basis (aka: Bestest Friend in All the Land), partly due to being deficient in Vitamin D. I found it today. I upped my vitamin D, heard some of my jams on the way to work, and realized that he may be far away, but he’s always with me (So close, no matter how far…). Besides, he just recently got his own sparkle back…and remembering the glint reappearing in the eyes of my personal scoundrel (It’s a term of endearment, promise, lol) well, it made me smile. I was being a little selfish…a bit of a pouty pixie, to be honest, and I had to remind myself that everything isn’t about me.
So, if your life has gotten to be a little lackluster, start trying to see if you can find your sparkle. Trust me, it will make a WORLD of difference. ?
Everyone is aware of the multiple attacks that happened in Paris this past week. The saddest part is that this was not the only horrific act of violence to occur. Two suicide bombers walked into a Beirut marketplace a day before the Paris attacks, which resulted in 44 dead and 200+ injured. Many deaths in the African villages of Ndassima & Mala (as part of ongoing religious violence) took place Monday. Tuesday saw dozens killed in a bombing in Nigeria, as well as a Russian jet destroyed by a bomb over Egypt. Add to that the seemingly endless string of fatal incidents here in the U.S. – whether they be incidents against law enforcement…by law enforcement…or yet another mass shooting.
The World as a whole is under siege by these and other assaults. This fire of violence has only been fueled by the irrational, fear & hate filled reactions by those who’ve heard of them. The masses are rejecting the idea of taking in Syrian refugees for fear that they will be terrorists. The majority of comments I have seen on social media have been disappointing to say the least. Many have come from our pool of G.O.P. presidential…candidates, but the number from regular everyday folks of all walks of life and faiths (including pagans) is overwhelming.
What people in this country seem to be forgetting is that refusing these refugees dishonors the values of this country. The Statue of Liberty tells us this herself.
“Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she
With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”
It is up to us to end the violence. Each and every one of us, as individuals, holds some level of responsibility on the journey to world peace. His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama was asked about his view of the Paris attacks. He commented on the levels of violence and bloodshed of the 20th century and concluded that this century’s violence is in effect a spill-over of those acts. So, what should we do? His Holiness says:
“People want to lead a peaceful lives. The terrorists are short-sighted, and this is one of the causes of rampant suicide bombings. We cannot solve this problem only through prayers. I am a Buddhist and I believe in praying. But humans have created this problem, and now we are asking God to solve it. It is illogical. God would say, solve it yourself because you created it in the first place.
We need a systematic approach to foster humanistic values, of oneness and harmony. If we start doing it now, there is hope that this century will be different from the previous one. It is in everybody’s interest. So let us work for peace within our families and society, and not expect help from God, Buddha or the governments.”
I think that’s some pretty good advice. We need to work for peace, and we need to start at home, and EXTEND that spirit of peace beyond that of our friends and family. Rain compassion down on those who need it. Do something to help someone in need. Let go of any attitudes that make you question whether or not someone in need “deserves” help…just help.
Forget about the concepts of “Us” and “Them” for we are all one. “Imagine there’s no countries. It isn’t hard to do. Nothing to kill or die for, and no religion too. Imagine all the people living life in peace…”
I may be a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. So let’s all Imagine, and Give Peace a Chance.
Divination Method: The Sacred Circle Tarot
Card(s) Drawn: 2 of Discs
Key Word(s): Fluctuation
My Interpretation: This coming week requires us to be flexible. Change is in the air, and while it can be difficult to deal with, DO NOT DESPAIR! The 2 of discs is about maintaining balance, which means that although there may be losses…there will also be gains. We can still achieve our goals, we just have to put in the necessary work and stay on our toes. We must be able to adapt to the situation at hand. Basically, pretend you’re Jareth maintaining control of his crystal ball on his constantly fluctuating hand. 😉
Spiritually, the 2 of Disks reminds us to become…or remain in tune with the ebbs and flows of energies, and the cycles of life. Those who adapt thrive, those who do not, perish.
So, to quote R.E.O. Speedwagon: If you’re tired of the same old story, turn some pages. I’ll be here when you are ready to roll with the changes.”
If any of you are like me, then you’ve been looked at as kind of an oddball for most of your life. It hasn’t been an unpleasant thing (most of the time). My nearest and dearest family, friends, and co-workers have lovingly referred to me as weird, odd, goofy, unique, bonkers, crazy, unusual, etc., etc.. I don’t mind, because they’re entirely correct! LOL I’ve always had a different way of looking at things, and that just means that life with me is anything but boring. 😉
It also means that I’ve had more than one chance to reenact this scene from The Craft:
Nancy and the girls pushed the boundaries of weirdness til they burst, but being weird in and of itself is nothing to be ashamed of. There’s a quote I recently came across that perfectly describes why that is so.
So go ahead, Be a Weirdo! Keep showing others how they can see things a bit differently. 🙂
Good evening everyone! Hopefully you all had a wonderful Samhain, I know I did. It was a little damp here…but all festivities went on, and much Magick was made! 😀
But, that’s not what today is about, is it? It’s about what little nuggets of wisdom I can find and share with you. So let me tell you what I’ve found for today. I came across a quote from the ever-sassy Reba McEntire, and it absolutely resonated with me.
To succeed in life, you need three things:
a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone.”
~ Reba McEntire
What makes these three things so important? Well, let’s break them down to see what each represents.
The Wishbone is our Hopes…our Dreams…our Magick!
The Backbone is our Strength…our Fortitude…our Gumption!
The Funny Bone is our Relief Valve…our Amusement…our Joy!
Those are some pretty significant aspects of our lives encompassed in those Three Bones! So, keep dreaming. Stand up for yourself and for what you believe in. Most importantly, remember to not take yourself and life too seriously.
If things are getting you down…take some advice from the Monkees and LAUGH! 😉
Some of you may be confused by the title of this post, but as most of you awesome readers are pagans, I think you’ll get what I mean by this.
I like to look at endings as beginnings that’ve gotten a bad rap. Think about it. A birth is the beginning of life, but also the end of a pregnancy. Ends are simply transitions and/or transformations. We simply move on to another state of being. This holds true whether we are talking a change in careers, a change in marital status, or a change from corporeal life to ethereal life.
That’s something to keep in mind this time of year. Not only are we currently in the midst of a seasonal transition…but as Samhain approaches it becomes much easier to catch a glimpse at the ethereal side of life as the veil between this world and the next becomes quite thin.
You may also want to mull the concept over if you’re going through something that traditionally feels like an end. Examine the situation and find the positives. What new thing has (or could) come out of this “ending”? What opportunities await you as you embark on this new leg of your life’s journey?
The Pixie commands thee to find that silver lining!! lol
Anyway, here’s a few quotes to drive home what I’m talking about…the first one is the one that sparked this little Ramble Train. It’s a little something that was stated by the Master of Horror, and my favorite author, Stephen King! 😀
“Life is like a wheel. Sooner or later,
it always come around to where you started again.”
“Our life is an apprenticeship to the truth that around every circle another can be drawn; that there is no end in nature, but every end is a beginning, and under every deep a lower deep opens.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“The world is round and the place which may seem like the end
may also be the beginning.”
Ivy Baker Priest
This last one, including the photo, is mine. 😉
This weeks bit of wisdom is something I have placed in my own Book of Shadows. It spoke to me when I found it, and I do my best to live by these words.
I do not know who originally penned it…I’ve seen it in SO many places around the internet, each time without it being attributed to anyone.
While this tells us to embrace and emulate all aspects of the Goddess in our daily lives, it is not just speaking to the ladies among us… It means you too, gents! So, let’s break it down and see what it’s telling us.
Dance Like The Maiden: Channel your Inner Child and remember to PLAY. Sing, Dance, and skip about every now and then (Y’know…like no one is watching…even if they are).
Laugh Like The Mother: Don’t take yourself, or any given situation too seriously. Life is too short to spend it miserable, so keep your sense of humor intact and make the best out of every situation.
Think Like The Crone: Use your head, and try not to act rashly. Also remember that you are a Child of The Goddess and are therefore worthy of the same level of respect as any other person (or creature). While you are entitled to respect, including self-respect, you should also remember to conduct yourself with dignity and grace.
Yes, you CAN be dignified while dancing about and laughing…it’s all about balance people!
I saw something on Pinterest yesterday that really jumped out at me. It said “Forgive them even if they’re not sorry”. It seems I needed the reminder. It’s difficult though…forgiving someone can sometimes feel like defeat, especially if the offending party has no remorse for whatever it is that they’ve done or said (or NOT done or said). However, the truth of the matter is, you don’t forgive for the sake of others…you forgive for the sake of yourself.
Sometimes it’s an exercise in compassion (See Giles Quote from the Buffy-verse below). If you take the time to learn the reasons or circumstances that have led the person to behave or act in a certain manner…if you can at least see the situation from their point of view, it may not change your opinion about the terribleness of said deed, but if you can at least understand what brought them to that course of action, it is easier to forgive them and let it go.
To forgive is an act of compassion…it’s not done because people deserve it, it’s done because they need it.”
RUPERT GILES, Buffy the Vampire Slayer
Grudges do not serve those who hold them, they poison the soul. They take hold and breed distrust and insecurities about ourselves and others. Seriously, who the hell needs that?!?! Nobody says you have to stay friends, or in a relationship, or talk to whomever it is that hurt you…deciding that has nothing to do with forgiveness, that’s a separate matter. Forgiving them lightens the burden on your soul, thus allowing you to continue on and lead a happy life.
Think of it this way: Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what’s been done. Forgiveness prevents what’s been done from destroying your heart & soul.
This also applies to yourself. Did you totally screw something up? Lie to someone? Make a bad choice? Flub up a presentation or project? Well, guess what? I know you’re awesome and everything, but here’s a little secret: You’re also human. Aaaaand Now, I’m hearing Human League in my head: “I’m only human. Of flesh and blood I’m made. Human….born to make mistakes”. It’s sappy 80’s cheese, but I LOVE IT! Besides, they make a hugely valid point. We all make mistakes, so why dwell on them?
Forgiveness doesn’t mean being a doormat….because who says you have to hate someone forever?? Hopefully nobody, because that doesn’t do anybody any good.
I’ll leave you with this…a couple years ago I watched a talk His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama gave that was streamed live via the internet (don’t you just LOVE technology???). Anyway, during this talk, he said that forgiveness is not to accept the wrongdoing of others….and that retaining feelings of anger, hatred and stress do more harm to YOU than they do to those you are harboring them towards. Then he defined what forgiveness really is, and that definition will be my final word on the subject (for today, at least).
If your empathic in any way, the title to this post may freak you out a bit. I totally get it. I used to keep myself so closed off it was NUTS! Any gifts that I have had practically stopped surfacing, I was not open to messages during my waking hours, which is why I was flooded with prophetic dreams for years. I ignored my need to be close to others…my need for others to SEE the REAL me. I was afraid of, not only who the real me might turn out to be, but afraid of how others would react.
Well, once I figured out that I was an Empath, I pretty much obliterated all of my defenses…that may not have been the wisest course of action, as I was now pretty defenseless, and had a hard time discerning my emotions from those of the people around me. Eventually I learned various shield techniques, as well as what stones & crystals would aid in keeping things in check.
There were some freaky moments in the time that it took me to get a hold of this whole, not only Empath me…but real whole package me. I started letting some of my shield down…and carrying fewer stones, because I realized I could now distinguish between my feelings and those of everyone else.
I still have a bit of a “psychic buffer up” but it doesn’t hide me from the world. I guess you could say I took a little advice from Faye Dunaway as Joan Crawford in Mommie Dearest. One of my favorite lines is when she and her new Pepsi Mogul hubby are having their NYC apartment renovated. The contractor says that “This bitch of a bearing wall is blocking my view”.
Joan contemplates this dilemma for a moment then replies, in a most dramatic fashion “Tear down that bitch of a bearing wall and put a window where it ought to be!” (Here, watch it, I LOVE IT! 😀 )
I guess that’s what my advice to all of you is this week. Whether you’ve built them because your an Empath, or because you’re afraid others will try to hurt you. TEAR DOWN THAT BITCH OF A BEARING WALL, and put a window to your Awesome where it ought to be!
When we are open to being viewed at our core, and to receiving the inner light of others, we all become a bit more connected. Our lives become more fulfilling. Will there be pain? Of course there will, human’s hurt other humans…even if we don’t mean to…that is the fragile nature of emotions.
However, you can learn from all of these newly heightened interactions, both good & bad, and use them to stoke that furnace O’ Awesome that is your spirit. This leaves you open to make some unbelievable connections with people.
I was fortunate enough to have let my walls down for a couple of people before I destroyed them…and they have resulted in the two most fulfilling relationships of my life. That with my best friend, and that with my husband. Since my conscious and permanent destruction however, I have connected with SO many people. More than I ever would have thought possible. This introvert – YES, Introvert! – has expanded her “bubble of existence” to include heaps of folks. I’m SO glad I brought in the proverbial wrecking ball (Cue Miley Cyrus, LOL) and laid waste to my emotional bearing wall.
I’m not sure if this is making any sense to anyone…but it hit home with me, so now you get to read it. LOL Feel free to comment or ask questions if you have any. I always love a good discussion! 😀
So many of us go through our lives and are hesitant to truly live them. Have you ever regretted: NOT kissing the boy that was standing in your doorway, NOT asking for someone’s phone number (or giving them yours), Not applying for that dream job, or any other number of things? I’m pretty sure you have…and you know what? That’s OK, but I’m gonna tell you this: KNOCK IT OFF, ALREADY!
I spent many years of my life afraid to do the things that I wanted to. Yes, I’ve always had a spontaneous streak, but when it came down to doing something that was important to me, I’d generally chicken out and regret it later – often for years (Yeahhhh, that boy standing in my doorway…I didn’t seize the moment and kiss him. Even though every fiber of my being was screaming at me to do so, I chickened out and kicked myself for it for ages. Y’know what? Turns out he was WAITING for me to do it. *sigh*).
I very rarely ignore what my heart wants these days, and I am much happier for it. If nobody is getting hurt, why not chase that rainbow? You might end up having a life changing experience. I mean, much like Miles says to Joel in Risky Business (Yes, another pop culture reference. Get used to it, they are my life, lol) “Sometimes you gotta say “What the Fuck”, make your move. Joel, every now and then, saying “What the Fuck”, brings freedom. Freedom brings opportunity, opportunity makes your future.”
These words always stuck with me and, eventually I learned to live by them most days. Saying this cherished little phrase in my head lead to my relationship with my husband, the purchase of our house, the opening of my now defunct business (hey, I gave it a shot), life-long friendships with people I met online and decided to meet in person, even my decision to join the Coven of Sangha-Sho (albeit a “WTF” guided by the Divine, lol).
If you’d like a more eloquently stated version to print out and post at work, or on the fridge or something, try this quote by Goethe.
However you want to phrase it is up to you, but I advise you to start saying yes to the things that tug at your heart strings. Life is one hell of a ride when you start purchasing those “WTF” tickets! Sometimes things don’t work out as you’d hoped, but at least you know you tried. If you never try, how will you know how splendid your world can be??